Each and every one of us has a subconscious role-model in our minds that we all aim to become. Not surprisingly, our behaviours everyday endeavour to shape itself in the likeness of that person.
Who is that “role model” that I have in my mind that I seem to model towards? And does it need reviewing?
My current role model
He is a quiet, reticent, well-mannered but soft-spoken scholarly gentleman wearing traditional, conservative clothes. He leads a stable life – a peaceful life. He wears gentle spectacles. He prefers the company of books than other people, however with others like him, he gets along incredibly well. He is usually the stand-back observer when it comes to life’s activities. He has achieved eminent, scholarly, things in his life, though most people do not understand his works, whilst they still do respect him. He is incredibly polite and does not want to stand in anyone’s way. Overall he is a nice, intelligent – with always a “gleam in his eye”, seemingly thinking of something profound – and gentle-natured person.
Reviewed role model
As for above plus:
Though he is a scholarly man, he does not mind getting his “hands dirty” at all – including to help out, at the lowest level, of those in need. He treasures the activities of daily life in people as well as his scholarly works. With the people of everyday he is able to hold everyday conversations – the courtesies of modern day life. In fact, he strains not to make any distinction between him and “others” – he knows he is “just another human being” out there, but does not feel any less because of this – in fact, he feels empowered, being part of a community.
He is a dynamic person, flexible to adapt. He knows there is a broader world out there beyond the bookcases, whilst simultaneously acknowledging the universes held within the books themselves.
Though he is a quiet man, he doesn’t think of this as a weakness – rather, as a strength. He turns this trait on its head; he is able to maintain all the “manners” of society by engaging in conversation, and also speaking up when it is necessary (and sometimes when it isn’t necessary).
This is a man who doesn’t pride in holing himself up in the ivory tower – but rather gets out, into that town below, and jumps right into the midst, the foray, and sometimes – the chaos. Whilst in the meanwhile keeping the treasures found in his books close to his heart – not throwing them away too.
Amidst it all, he is able to keep a clear head of who he is, what he is doing, and where he is going. He has a clear sense of who he is and is proud of it.
He engages, dances, enjoys the company of other people. Yet at the same time – that gleam in his eye always remains. In fact, some state that there is a fire in his eye now.
His love for the world grows, whilst his intellectual acumen remain as sharp as ever.